Posted January 21, 2021
I have something of an odd request: Does anyone have suggestions for calming or relaxing short stories?
To elaborate a bit, my wife suffers from occasional bouts of anxiety. Certain things that frighten her can induce anxiety attacks or raise her anxiety to levels that severely inhibit her ability to relax and, crucially, sleep. One source of comfort she often finds is my reading voice. We have long made a habit of me reading right before bed, both as a means of sharing some quality time at the end of they day and as a means to help her get to sleep. When her anxiety is elevated, this is one of the only ways she can fall asleep, and it necessitates me continuing to read for quite some time after she falls asleep, otherwise she won't be sleeping deeply enough and she will wake up.
In years past, this wasn't too much of an issue. I could deal with a night or two of staying up hours after we planned to fall asleep and I'd be fine. The difficulty now is that we have three children under the age of two (two of those children being four-month-old twins), and at the end of the day, I am exhausted. I would stay up to help my wife fall asleep if I could, but my body simply has limits. There comes a point when I simply cannot focus on the page and I can no longer read properly.
A possible solution suggested by my wife some time ago was for me to record myself reading so she could listen to it if I was too tired to continue reading. I entertained the idea for a while but eventually forgot about it. However, just last night my wife was unable to fall asleep due to her anxiety, and I was unable to remain awake long enough to get her to the point of deep sleep. With that fresh in my mind, I have made a more serious determination to fulfill my wife's suggestion as a (hopefully pleasant) surprise. Obviously this will not replace me reading as part of our nightly routine, but for those moments when she has difficulty falling asleep, she can have recordings of my voice reading to her.
Now, I am aware there are apps designed for this sort of thing. I myself used a free trial of the app Calm, and I enjoyed it immensely. I wouldn't mind paying the subscription for my wife's sake, but I don't know how effective it would be for her. She has mentioned several times that it is my voice in particular that soothes her. She says it brings her comfort. Ideally, then, I would like to be able to do that for her.
The issue I'm running into now is deciding what to read. When my wife suggested I do this, she suggested I just record myself reading the books we read before bed. I don't know that this would be ideal, though. She enjoys these books for their content, too, and she often laments that she doesn't want to miss out on anything (which means I often have to reread some sections, but I don't mind). I fear that this might be somewhat counterproductive, or at least less effective than it could be. Even if her ultimate desire was to fall asleep, I fear that any interest in the plotline itself might subconsciously hinder her ability to do so. I read an article in which the developers of the Calm app specifically design their stories to avoid this kind of thing. The stories' openings are written to grab their audience's attention to focus their mind on what they are listening to rather than any worries or concerns for the next day, but as the story progresses it essentially gets more boring and slower paced to lull the mind to sleep.
That's what I'm looking for. Something that is just interesting enough to capture my wife's attention, but just boring enough that she won't care if she hears it all the way through. I realize that may be a weirdly specific request for something, but it seems ideal for my purposes. If anyone has any suggestions for stories that might fit that format, or that are just relaxing in general, I would greatly appreciate it.
EDIT: I realized based on questions below that I neglected to say the kinds of stories my wife prefers. She generally prefers fantasy; the young adult variety is a particularly guilty pleasure for her. Bonus points for romantic subplots. She also has some interest in science fiction, though her tastes there are a bit more unpredictable. For reference, one of her favorite book series is the Harry Potter series. The last series we read to completion was the Percy Jackson and the Olympians, and we are currently reading the sequel series, Heroes of Olympus. For other taste references, her favorite TV shows are Friends and Supernatural.
To elaborate a bit, my wife suffers from occasional bouts of anxiety. Certain things that frighten her can induce anxiety attacks or raise her anxiety to levels that severely inhibit her ability to relax and, crucially, sleep. One source of comfort she often finds is my reading voice. We have long made a habit of me reading right before bed, both as a means of sharing some quality time at the end of they day and as a means to help her get to sleep. When her anxiety is elevated, this is one of the only ways she can fall asleep, and it necessitates me continuing to read for quite some time after she falls asleep, otherwise she won't be sleeping deeply enough and she will wake up.
In years past, this wasn't too much of an issue. I could deal with a night or two of staying up hours after we planned to fall asleep and I'd be fine. The difficulty now is that we have three children under the age of two (two of those children being four-month-old twins), and at the end of the day, I am exhausted. I would stay up to help my wife fall asleep if I could, but my body simply has limits. There comes a point when I simply cannot focus on the page and I can no longer read properly.
A possible solution suggested by my wife some time ago was for me to record myself reading so she could listen to it if I was too tired to continue reading. I entertained the idea for a while but eventually forgot about it. However, just last night my wife was unable to fall asleep due to her anxiety, and I was unable to remain awake long enough to get her to the point of deep sleep. With that fresh in my mind, I have made a more serious determination to fulfill my wife's suggestion as a (hopefully pleasant) surprise. Obviously this will not replace me reading as part of our nightly routine, but for those moments when she has difficulty falling asleep, she can have recordings of my voice reading to her.
Now, I am aware there are apps designed for this sort of thing. I myself used a free trial of the app Calm, and I enjoyed it immensely. I wouldn't mind paying the subscription for my wife's sake, but I don't know how effective it would be for her. She has mentioned several times that it is my voice in particular that soothes her. She says it brings her comfort. Ideally, then, I would like to be able to do that for her.
The issue I'm running into now is deciding what to read. When my wife suggested I do this, she suggested I just record myself reading the books we read before bed. I don't know that this would be ideal, though. She enjoys these books for their content, too, and she often laments that she doesn't want to miss out on anything (which means I often have to reread some sections, but I don't mind). I fear that this might be somewhat counterproductive, or at least less effective than it could be. Even if her ultimate desire was to fall asleep, I fear that any interest in the plotline itself might subconsciously hinder her ability to do so. I read an article in which the developers of the Calm app specifically design their stories to avoid this kind of thing. The stories' openings are written to grab their audience's attention to focus their mind on what they are listening to rather than any worries or concerns for the next day, but as the story progresses it essentially gets more boring and slower paced to lull the mind to sleep.
That's what I'm looking for. Something that is just interesting enough to capture my wife's attention, but just boring enough that she won't care if she hears it all the way through. I realize that may be a weirdly specific request for something, but it seems ideal for my purposes. If anyone has any suggestions for stories that might fit that format, or that are just relaxing in general, I would greatly appreciate it.
EDIT: I realized based on questions below that I neglected to say the kinds of stories my wife prefers. She generally prefers fantasy; the young adult variety is a particularly guilty pleasure for her. Bonus points for romantic subplots. She also has some interest in science fiction, though her tastes there are a bit more unpredictable. For reference, one of her favorite book series is the Harry Potter series. The last series we read to completion was the Percy Jackson and the Olympians, and we are currently reading the sequel series, Heroes of Olympus. For other taste references, her favorite TV shows are Friends and Supernatural.
Post edited January 22, 2021 by Daedalus1138