This is a good suggestion. Hope your grandmother gets better OP.

Sorry that the situation exists, but don't really know any way to make things better.

When I have found myself in similar situations, I generally busy myself with supporting other members of the family who are having a difficult time, which can take any form from explaining things to them, to just fielding some of their frustrations while they try to come to terms with things. It affects me too, but generally if I'm thinking of others first, I don't have time to dwell on, or lose myself, within the situation.

Some people pray, some drink, some lash out, some come closer, and some run away; people deal with things all kinds of ways. Even though we care, and they fight, sometimes there is just no changing things; I hope this isn't the case here, but it is inevitable at some point.

About the only thought that brought me a little comfort in those instances, where wishes, prayers, and hope of the people around were seemingly failing, was a change in what I hoped. Instead of wanting them to just get better, have it all go away, and have everyone happy, I found that I just wanted what was best for them, whatever it was. I realized that that is the best we can wish for sometimes, and to wish anything else in certain situations was more for the people around than it was for them.

Good luck to you and your family, and I hope that everything works out in a good way for you.

I know what it's like also to lose family members. Both my grandfathers died and it's always a rough situation no one should have to go through. I hope this helps, it always manages to cheer me up when I'm stressed out or upset or going through an otherwise rough patch.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vEyUinXvX6w
I know it's not the Monty Python original, but it's an actually decent cover of one of my favourite Python tunes. Plus it has Tim Curry so it's full of win.

http://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL5B494EEF08D58EB8&feature=plcp

Here's the "Best of" playlist for JustForLaughsTV. There are some really creative hidden camera pranks in there, and I love this channel because the humor in the pranks are overall very good-natured, unlike the really mean ones often done by amateurs. If the humor style fits you, there's like 2 thousand more of them you can watch. :)

I've found listening to the Pink Floyd album The Division Bell always helps me relax.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KrjZ_Egjst8

Other than that your best bet is to try and keep active so you dont dwell on what is happening in the here and now. Put some tunes on and tidy the house, take pet for a walk if you have one and things like that.

Worst thing you can do is just sit and dwell on things, also keep away from alcohol as it is actually a depressant and will just make you feel a lot worse than you already do.

Hope everything works out ok for you long term.

I don't mean to discourage you, but if your grandma is in such a bad state she's been put into a hospital, there's a chance you won't have much time to see her anymore. She might pass away. Visit her while you still can, and remember that death is natural part of the course of life, and for many it's actually a relief, not something that should be feared. If she should die, you'll still always have memories of her: therefor she is not forever gone. I've lost both my grandfathers by the age of 2, my other grandma a couple years ago, and the other is currently in such a shape she could go anytime without warning. I've learned to accept that not everything is forever, and even though it hurts when you lose a loved one, time will heal all wounds eventually.

Here's a song with a somewhat similar message, even if it's been simplified a little in the lyrics. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=NJ3aiM8K6D0&ob=av3n

This song from the Beatles just immensely relaxes me if I had a bad day:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RdopMqrftXs

Also, I'm sure this will help quite a bit:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yjbpwlqp5Qw

And above all, hang in there.

Amethystium's music is ambient(ish) and can be quite relaxing.

Wishing your grandmother well.

Sorry to hear that, mate.

Adiemus' music has always helped me in bad times:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aL8kZ-iVk90

My best wishes to you and your family!

great news everyone!the doctors called us and they said that the condition of my granny is stable.she will have to stay in the hospital for 3 more days for observation.many thanks to the community for the support.

Sounds like great news:) should we now post depressing stuff to even this out?:P

Glad to hear it.

if you wish