Hawk52: The reason Steam gets a pass with most gamers is because
Steam has done nothing to earn the wrath of gamers. Sure, their rules give them the ability to be complete douche bags, but they've never acted on it.
- force downloading Counter Strike Condition Zero without asking, then resuming when you cancelled or paused to make sure you'd have the game preloaded whether you wanted to or not
- dodgy updates that completely break your Steam software until you uninstall ("whoops, did we forget to tell you that this means it will uninstall all your games as well? Our bad!") and reinstall
- Steam patch that corrupted the MBR of system hard drives running on NForce systems. People who discovered Steam was the source of their systems no longer booting got muted on the forums, topics deleted.
- refusing refunds for broken games that do not work as advertised (Commandos BEL for example, screenshots that show the wrong game, etc.)
- Dollar = Euro scam, which Steam was the first to use. (and no, it was NOT the publishers' fault - Valve took the step to alter the prices without warning anyone)
- shutting down accounts because Paypal acts up
- shutting down accounts because of "assumed" VAC cheating - later proven to be false
- shutting down accounts because you use a proxy (which many do to circumvent port limitations at university or at work)
- shutting down accounts because another person at uni was found cheating/hacking and shares the same IP as you
- VAC banning you because someone hacked your account and even though you reported it before it got banned and even though the IP evidence is there, they still don't give you the benefit of the doubt ... unless you write a magazine like, say, PC Gamer, and then they pull PR crap and want to show off as being the "good guy" by unbanning you while they're really assholes because everyone else in the same situation still remains banned.
- breaking your game or save games by auto-applying a patch that you can't get rid of - reinstalling the game in Steam will get the pre-patched version without the option to go back to a previous version
- making it so expansions only work with your Steam version of the game, if you buy them on Steam as well, and visa versa: Steam expansions do not work on retail games. (not always, but often, and often without warning as well)
- making it so "offline mode" never works properly and demands to go online at the least convenient moments, meaning that if your internet goes down, there's a good chance you can't access any of your games
- etc. etc.
Oh, there's plenty more - too bad my memory sucks but these are all based on real life examples - some from this very forum, others from the news, many from personal experience. Basically, Valve are great at PR but don't be mistaken: there's still a selfish company underneath all the shine and polish. You can argue that some of the above are just limitations of Steam (like the wonkyness of offline mode, or the way patches work) but when you've reported this several times to Steam support and other sources (yes I have) - for example, to at least give a WARNING that, when uninstalling Steam, all your games will be gone too and they STILL don't do it ... I call that malicious and/or lazy.