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I am obsessing over this girl that turned me down 2 months ago. I cant stop thinking about her even though she did turn me down as she was really cool. Its really pretty friggin lame as it hurts physically as well as emotionally. Can anyone recommend a way to gain apathy, as in not caring at all?

I sometimes wish i could be apathetic like Artemis Entreri, then i wouldnt worry about about a thing. Any advice?
Post edited June 15, 2011 by deathknight1728
Stop caring. /thread
Its just another girl of many. It wont be the last time this happens. Learn from it and move on.
I don't know if there's anyway to really gain apathy. You could say stop caring but than you'd have to ask how to stop that and so on. I guess you'll just have to put up with it.
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kiva: Its just another girl of many. It wont be the last time this happens. Learn from it and move on.
kiva ftw!
Sorry to hear that, but it's pretty natural to feel that way, and I doubt there's any way to remove her from your thoughts completely. The best thing you can do is move on, and be aware that although you may be hurting, she's not the only 'cool' girl in the world. Basically it's okay to think about her a lot, after all it's an emotional thing, but just keep an eye out for other opportunities.
2 years ago, I was with this girl whose I thought I'd spent the rest of my life with.

But on day, she brutally crushed my heart on the morning of the day we were to move in together and I was force to do serious self analysis.

So what I did was:

Find new hobbies. Meet new people. Get myself out of my personal comfort zone. Traveling little more.

I hit up the anime con just for the experience and join the anime club to meet the people.

I even join the cosplay community and it works for me. I even meet some of my dearest and precious friends that way.

That way, I manage to forget about her and just move on with my life. It helps that I blog heavily about my experience so it shows me how far I have come in short period.

Dude, just move on with your life. Life is not going to hold your hand. You gotta do it yourself and jump out of your comfort zone.
Yeah, I didnt think that there'd be an answer i was looking for, but i appreciate the honest opinion. Its the weirdest thing, I drive all the time, 4 hours a day, i nearly miss accidents by a second and dont care whatsoever. Something bad happens, i dont really care. Then one girl has the power to make me weak. Its almost too crazy to believe.
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MGShogun: 2 years ago, I was with this girl whose I thought I'd spent the rest of my life with.

But on day, she brutally crushed my heart on the morning of the day we were to move in together and I was force to do serious self analysis.

So what I did was:

Find new hobbies. Meet new people. Get myself out of my personal comfort zone. Traveling little more.

I hit up the anime con just for the experience and join the anime club to meet the people.

I even join the cosplay community and it works for me. I even meet some of my dearest and precious friends that way.

That way, I manage to forget about her and just move on with my life. It helps that I blog heavily about my experience so it shows me how far I have come in short period.

Dude, just move on with your life. Life is not going to hold your hand. You gotta do it yourself and jump out of your comfort zone.
What you just said, is what i will try. There's a gaming and roleplaying group in my area. Meets once a week. Ill probably go there to meet some people.
Post edited June 15, 2011 by deathknight1728
Let me make a short list...

-Masturbate.
-Become a eunuch.
-Find someone equally/more or less attractive.
-Watch the Friday music video and remember you just watched the biggest Internet abortion.
-Force a Blue Screen of Death and spend hours repairing it.
-Watch about 26gigs of Internet porn.
-Perform an Akwater and get hammered horribly.
-Do the above method ^ and do a contest on GOG.
-Browse the Gamespot, 4chan, and Xfire forums.
-Play Daikatana.

Seriously though, just talk to some other girls you know about it. I have way, way more girl friends than guy friends and I recommend conversing with a few and developing a stronger relationship with the ones you like. It worked for me.
Did she not like your hair?
Stop trying to say you are me, that should help a bit.
Either find someone else, which will usually work to forget her and move on or find a hobby or something that'll keep your mind busy and thinking of something else. It could be community or charity work. Sometimes looking at other people's really serious problems makes your social ones seem very small.
Don't listen to sad love songs.
In all seriousness...you can't gain apathy. You'll hurt like nobody's business for several months (at least).

But I promise you...after awhile it'll be alright. Basically just hold on buddy.

(And yes...this is coming from someone who knows that they call it "heartbreak" cause it's a physical pain in your chest when a girl does that to you.)
If you're seriously obsessing that bad over someone, you might want to find a councilor to talk it out with.