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DiscipleJF: Jesus went through life single, never had a woman. You don't need someone of the opposite sex to be happy and content. Millions get through life without it, and the majority, like me, look to God instead. What you need to do is keep your eyes focused on God and getting to the end of the tunnel where you can be happy. Being happy starts with you, if you cannot be happy being single, you cannot be happy with someone else.

God bless. :)
Yes and they went and crucified him.
I'm sure you will find a cute 80 year old in an elderly house when you're 90.

j/k it was a terrible joke :-p
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Dude SERIOUSLY! 23 Years old Fuck wish I was still 23 Shit yeah! I'm 30 and Dateless let alone Getting any Dude there are Tools you can use to get yourself off Just type "ADULT TOY STORE" into your Internet broswer or use any internet site like Google Search or BING! Makes sure you use one with Multiple Payment Options as those ones are Usually LEGIT! Things Like Prostate Massagers and Fleshlight which starts around the 60 buck mark Will Help you Yesterday I bought a Scorpions Tail Prostate Massager (The Only Pic I will Give you is the Receipt if anyone asks!) It's my First toy because I'm sick of not getting anything out of a Normal Crank session! (Hope that is Okay to say on Here)

Do NOT ask Me to Link pics of the product as that's Pretty Private and It would be Rather Embarrassing and Very hard to explain Why I got it And If you ask the answer is No I'm Hetero not Gay! I'm a guy into Gals Okay so no it isn't what you're thinking it's use is for both intense Pleasure and stopping Prostate Problems Like Prostatitis which runs in the Family and BPH also runs in the Family My grandfather had it before he passed away to MRSA so yeah! I don't want those problems in my life I got enough to deal with!

In my Match.com account 136 Women Viewed My Profile!
Post edited January 31, 2014 by fr33kSh0w2012
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angrypole:
Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.
Work up your confidence. If you need to change your looks for it, try to do it, but looks is like #9 on the top 10 list of things that make girl like a guy.
Don't get discouraged by failures. Try to socialize with as many people as possible. Build up a large social circle if you can (hell, universities are the best places to socialize). If you're not feeling confident to talk to a pretty girl then exercise one ones that you don't find so attractive. And who knows, maybe you'll find out that you like here even more than the pretty one ;).
And if you like a girl, don't try too hard, that will most of the time fail.
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Aveweto: that sounds so perverted, i like it :)
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Momo1991: Hey, I am all for everyone making their wildest dreams come true - and an honest, healthy relationship breeds the kind of trust where that actually happens. Call it perverted if you like but I call it being really happy ;-p

See the thing is that most people hide their deepest desires from other people - and sadly the people they are closest to, for the most part. But how the heck is anyone going to realize their dreams if they never talk about them and get the support they need to make them come true? It's totally stupid, right? Whether it be some sexual fantasy or some business plan or some invention... dreams need verbalization to become reality. I mean not every dream is going to be amazing but if you don't try, you never know, if that makes any kind of sense.

For me that means a whole host of opportunities - yeah some of them are bedroom stuff which I am NOT going to share on this forum (;-D) but others are about seeing some amazing places in the world, learning to code and a lot of other education, and cooking great meals or trying new wines or even playing new genres of games. Without the encouragement of someone I trust, those things might not have happened and that is the saddest thing ever.

Hey, life is short...it may not feel like it but it is. When we surround ourselves with people who encourage us to live life to its fullest extent, AND we do the same for them, life may (for many - not all) be a richer experience.
well my current relationship is pretty much all about truth and honesty but still my deepest desires are gonna be told to no one as i didnt find a woman for a relationship that would agree with them and keep the relationship going and i doubt i will :P
Look girls in the eyes man... And look insistently. Do it always. In the bus, metro all the crowded places like that. Some girls show interest (thats about 1/50, 1/10 if you are good looking) . Then just talk to them. You wont be rejected 80 percent. It really works believe me. Thats because you show self respect in this situation and girls like it. And no girl gets angry about it. They kinda like it. Make it a habit. Do it always. This is the easiest, fastest way.
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angrypole:
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blotunga: Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.
Work up your confidence. If you need to change your looks for it, try to do it, but looks is like #9 on the top 10 list of things that make girl like a guy.
Don't get discouraged by failures. Try to socialize with as many people as possible. Build up a large social circle if you can (hell, universities are the best places to socialize). If you're not feeling confident to talk to a pretty girl then exercise one ones that you don't find so attractive. And who knows, maybe you'll find out that you like here even more than the pretty one ;).
And if you like a girl, don't try too hard, that will most of the time fail.
The not so Pretty ones are usually the Best in the Cot Per sé!
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cemtufekci: Look girls in the eyes man... And look insistently. Do it always. In the bus, metro all the crowded places like that. Some girls show interest (thats about 1/50, 1/10 if you are good looking) . Then just talk to them. You wont be rejected 80 percent. It really works believe me. Thats because you show self respect in this situation and girls like it. And no girl gets angry about it. They kinda like it. Make it a habit. Do it always. This is the easiest, fastest way.
It's not just that you Need to have a Filthy Wolfish Grin on your face when you do it too! I did that to a hot girl and she did the same thing back to me - Meaning she Liked the way I was thinking!

That Wolfish Grin!

And this one!

Wolfish grin! by ironshrinemaiden yep you have to master these things!
Post edited January 31, 2014 by fr33kSh0w2012
I'm in my early twenties as well, and the notion of potentially being single the rest of my life doesn't bother me in the least. It's probably my personality (introverted, outspoken, confident and single-mindedly honest. Socially awkward, too), but I've got a happy-with-myself-by-myself outlook on such things, and that makes life so much less stressful in many respects. Don't confuse this with having decided to remain single, though: should the opportunity and the right girl present themselves, consider me interested. I just don't actively pursue such things.

And yes, I was in a relationship for a few years and yes, it did have its upsides - most important of which, I think, is that I now have a clearer idea as to what exactly I find important in a girl and what I should look out for. So don't worry if things don't work out the first time, because it can be a valuable experience anyway.
I had my first and thus far only girlfriend when I was 18 (3 years ago).
A lot of dating is experience. It took a few failed attempts until I figured out when was the right time to make a move. Don't expect to get a girlfriend right out the gate. But remember, everything in life is a learning experience.

EDIT: I feel this is relevant.
Post edited January 31, 2014 by FantasyNightmare
In my opinion, the best thing you can do is this:

try to be a better person, everyday, don't give up what you like and what you would like in your life,
because if you want someone to spend their life together with you, you need to make them feel that way
and it can only happen if you feel good enough with yourself.

I'n not saying you're not a good person, but everybody can improve themselves, we all have something
we would like to change to feel better with ourselves. If you manage to do that you will see things differently.
Don't focus on what you think the others want from you, focus on what you want for yourself.

I had my first date when i was your age, i've always been so insecure about myself.
I learned that good things happen, if you let them happen, without forcing them.
Now i'm almost 35 and i'm married, with 2 lovely kids.
Life wasn''t easy before, it isn't easy now, but what i had to do was hold tight and better myself, take
some risks when i felt it was worth it.

Never give up.
27 years old, married since three years back and a recent father. I never dated or went clubbing.

Some of my life advice is as follows:

- Never act. The only people you tend to attract with acting are people who do not really care about you anyways.

- If you want to get noticed, don't talk about yourself. Show interest in what other people have to say and show them you have their attention. This is especially true for talking to women. Don't overdo it though, just casually ask about the stuff they are talking about.

- Always be calm. Never express worry or frustration. People like being around positive people that don't stress them out.

- Same goes for you, try and stick around happy stress free people. Don't get fixated on finding a pretty woman. Find a happy one who is comfortable with herself and feels no need herself to violate my previous advice.

- Personal hygiene and fitness. Just take care of yourself within reason but don't worry about stuff you can't really help. Bad skin, sweat and other nastiness matters far less than you think so long as you're brushing your teeth and showering every day Obviously change clothes before they smell too.

- Work with what you have and what you find. Don't fantasise about some perfect relationship with very specific free time activities or sexual play. First find that happy girl who can smile when she is around you, and give her the same in return. ANYTHING can happen from there but probably not all things you hope for. You will discover new things once you are in a private relationship and hopefully it can draw you forever closer.

- You're not stupid. You are not ugly. When that woman in your future sees you it makes her happy no matter what you look like or how awkward you act. She is going to see HER MAN, and she can do almost anything to make you happy. You will of course treat her the same way and realise that she is the most beautiful and caring woman in the world, if only in your eyes.

- Sex is not as big of a deal once you have a sexual partner as when you don't. Right now you might be going crazy not getting your very real needs satisfied (a kind of hunger, really), but once you have a girlfriend or a wife you will see that sex takes up a minimal percentage of time in your life. Other things will seem much more important very shortly, like taking walks together or talking. Even making sure you are both eating good food may occupy more time and thought. Never let sex be a primary objective in establishing a relationship. That doesn't mean you should completely ignore the subject and give the impression that you are asexual or not the least bit attracted to the woman you are courting, I'm just saying don't say too much. Sex just kind of happens, it is a wonderful by product of everything else working well. As I said, a happy woman will do almost anything.

- Perhaps the most important advice I can give you: Don't try and fix a troubled start. I made this mistake and I've seen many others do it. Don't spend months or even years trying to get together with someone you don't really gel with, no matter how attractive or how much you want things to work. If you have fundamental differences that lead to lots of disagreements or if you need to change too much to become the man she wants, just end it right then and there. It can never work. It is hard to think straight when you are just starting to date or getting to know a potential first partner, but try and stay objective about it. No, you can not just be friends, life is not a sitcom where exes and ex-flirts live together and hang out all the time. Say good bye and go look for that happy woman you actually like being around instead. She just might be the one.
first thing, you need to go out with people that likes the same things you like.. ignore the other mindless commoners..
second thing, you need to have faith in yourself, have a big self-esteem..
third thing, focus on your study path, career and hobbies.. the other things will come naturally
fourth thing, I hope you don't live in a redneck city full of bros or college idiots who like only madden and baseball and only like violence and hyper caloric food..
fifth thing, transfer in europe, here people are more easy going in my opinion..
sixth thing, run, swim, exercise yourself but don't go to the gym to became a ugly mass of muscles.. it kills the eyes of the girls who like jrpg, yaoi and dark stuff..
seventh thing, go to comicon, pax and stuff like that.. you'll find an awful bunch of attention whores but also normal people who like the same things you like..
eighth thing, don't be a paranoid, don't be oppressive.. don't be too depressed also.. if you are don't show it..

source: a former recluse who dropped school at twelfth grade.. who a day got a girlfriend via myspace via a internet friend who I meet online following my ex girlfriend on a metalheads forum.. with this girlfriend who shares my interests and that is very cute I am 7 years together.. btw I'm 27 years old..
Post edited January 31, 2014 by bluewave256
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Sufyan: - Always be calm. Never express worry or frustration. People like being around positive people that don't stress them out.
Calmness is certainly a virtue, but there's no need to hold everything to yourself because that's pretty bad for you as well. It's alright to vent at times, so long as you don't become whiny.

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Sufyan: Same goes for you, try and stick around happy stress free people. Don't get fixated on finding a pretty woman. Find a happy one who is comfortable with herself and feels no need herself to violate my previous advice.
Ladies, take notice (guys, too, I suppose), because there is much truth in this statement. I know that society keeps telling us that visual beauty is hugely important and that we should look the best we can all the bloody time, but it's all superficial bullshit. Not that it doesn't work to some extent, but I, for one, find myself much more attracted to ordinary-looking girls who carry themselves with dignity and confidence than beautiful ones who don't.
Self confidence really is key. Unhappy people make bad choices (see my first marriage-- as a first relationship it would have been okay for a couple years, but I never should have married him). Also, healthy people want no part of that when they meet someone who is holding a grudge against the world or some significant subset of it (like, say, women or American women). Everyone has baggage, but the ones who are working to unpack it are the ones worth knowing.

Also, you're probably tired of hearing it by now, but 23 really is too young to talk about doomed, except as a self-fulfilling prophecy. Life is seriously weird, man. My husband was about 35 when we met, and hadn't had very many relationships at all; his first one was in the last year or so of university and it didn't last much past graduation. Anyway, while he was in university near Toronto, I was living in DC. When we met, he was still near Toronto, and I was in New Mexico finally working towards my degree. So, how the bleep did we meet? I had a friend in DC who was Canadian, and she had to move back home when health issues coincided with losing her job and car trouble. After moving back to Canada, she met my husband and they became friends. Then, a couple years later, they both decided to visit her friends in DC with the Daily Show rally as an excuse. I did likewise, he friended me on Facebook after, and then we started talking politics. The rest, as they say, is history. Ultimately, it happened because he saw a chance to do something cool with a friend and took it, then followed up with me after the event. I was only able to attend because I was honest and reported my final check to the unemployment office when it finally came, and they withheld 8 weeks' of checks until bureaucracy agreed that it wasn't from a new job and gave me all that money at once, just in time to pay for a plane ticket home.

Tl;dr: Weird things happen and you never know when or where you'll meet someone, as long as you keep getting out there.
Post edited January 31, 2014 by dcgelfling
Kissless virgin here, it doesn't bother me. I have a good group of friends, and right now that's all I need.